Kisah Wanita Menangis...

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Sekadar Renungan………

“Ibu, kenapa menangis?” tanya seorang anak kepada ibunya. Ketika itu si ibu sedang menyuap makanan ke mulut anaknya.

“Kerana ibu seorang wanita,” jawab si ibu sambil mengesat air matanya. “Apa maksud ibu?” si anak bertanya lagi.

Ibunya Cuma tersenyum sedang air mata masih merembes, membasahi pipi. Dipeluk anaknya erat-erat, lalu berkata?”Anakku, kau memang tak kan faham……”

Kemudian anak itu bertanya pula kepada ayahnya:

“Ayah, kenapa ibu mudah menangis?

“Semua wanita memang mudah menangis,” hanya itu jawapan yang diberikan.

Masa berlalu … si anak membesar dan menjadi lelaki dewasa, namun dia masih lagi tertanya-tanya, mengapa wanita mudah menangis?

Sampai waktunya si ibu dipanggil pulang ke rahmatullah. Kerinduan yang amat sangat menyebabkan si anak terbawa-bawa rindunya ke dalam mimpi.

Di dalam mimpi itu, si ibu memimpin tangan si anak sambil berkata:“Anakku…Allah telah ciptakan wanita sangat istimewa. Dijadikan bahu wanita itu cukup kuar agar mampu menahan seluruh beban dunia dan isinya. Namun ia juga cukup nyaman dan lembut untuk kepala bayi yang sedang nyenyak."

“Allah berikan wanita kekuatan untuk melahir dan mengeluarkan bayi daripada rahimnya walaupun kerap kali ia menerima cercaan daripada si anak. Keperkasaan itu juga membuatkan wanita tetap bertahan, pantang menyerah walaupun ketika orang lain sudah berputus asa."

“Kepada wanita juga Allah berikan kesabaran untuk merawat keluarganya walaupun letih, sakit dan lelah tanpa berkeluh kesah."

“Ingatlah anakku, dalam hati setiap wanita itu, Allah telah tetapkan perasaan kasih sayang dan peka untuk mencintai semua anaknya tanpa mengira keadaan atau paras rupa. Walaupun acap kali anak-anak melukai perasaan dan hatinya."

“Allah juga memberikan wanita sesuatu kekuatan luar biasa untuknya membimbing suami melalui saat-saat genting dan sulit serta menjadi pelindung walaupun sepatutnya dialah yang harus dilindungi."
“Kemudian Allah berikan wanita kebijaksanaan, ketabahan serta kelembutan untuk menangkis segala keburukan suami. Walau sering kali ia akan menguji setiap kesetiaannya kepada suami agar tetap berdiri sejajar saling melengkapi dan menyayangi."
“Dan anakku, air mata adalah permata paling berharga yang Allah kurniakan kepada setiap wanita supaya dia boleh mencurahkan perasaan suka dan dukanya."

“Jika kamu fikir airmata adalah kelemahan wanita, ternyata kamu silap. Air mata adalah kekuatan wanita, di situlah perasaannya berderai; duka; gembira; bahagia; sengsara malah cintanya terungkap melalui air mata."

“Air mata wanita adalah air mata air mata kehidupan,” tiba-tiba si anak terjaga. Barulah dia sedar betapa teguh dan kuatnya seorang wanita.

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What is the Reason a Man Needs Space? Understanding When He Pulls Back.

Relationships can be wonderful and fulfilling one day and the very next feel like they're completely falling apart. Many women experience this when the man they're with decides he needs time or distance. He'll typically be very compassionate about it and say things like "it's me, not you" or "I just need some breathing room, it's not a break up." You want to believe with everything that it's not the beginning of the end of the relationship but it very well could be. In order to deal with this situation effectively you need to fully understand the reason a man needs space. Once you do, you can take the necessary steps to fix the problem and get the relationship back on track.

The main reason a man needs space is that his needs are no longer being fulfilled in the relationship. Something has shifted and his way of dealing with it is to pull back. Some men are vocal about this and will tell the woman they're involved with that they need some time or space. Other men just pull back without an explanation. Regardless of how your guy did it, it stings and it does feel like a rejection.

Trying to determine what happened to make your guy need space can be a bit of a challenge. If he's not willing to share exactly what changed, you're going to be left to your own devices to try and come up with a reason for it. Men in dating situations are often very fickle and can change their opinion of a woman based on one small mistake or error in judgment on her part. A few examples of things that men find unappealing are when a woman shares what she's feeling too soon in the relationship, when she crowds his space or when she tries to change him. Men are also notorious for changing the dynamic of a relationship if a woman has slept with them too soon or if she starts fishing for a commitment after only a few dates.

If you don't want to lose the relationship and you believe you know the reason a man need space, there's still an opportunity to undo the damage and fix the relationship. Try to avoid doing whatever you feel may have caused him to pull back. Keep things fun and casual. He'll let his defenses down again and you'll have another opportunity to show him just how irresistible you really are.

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