11Change the subject quickly. While an innocent person would be confused by the sudden shift in the conversation and may try to return to the previous subject, a liar will be relieved and welcome the change. You may see the person become more relaxed and less defensive.
12Watch his or her throat. A person may constantly be either trying to lubricate their throat when he/she lies by swallowing or clearing their throat to relieve the tension built up. A person's voice can also be a good lie indicator; they may suddenly start talking faster or slower than normal, or their tension may result in a higher-pitched speaking tone.
13Follow through. If you have the means, check the validity of what the liar is saying. A skilled liar might give some reason why you shouldn't talk to the person who could confirm or deny a story. Perhaps the liar will imply that the person is particularly favorable towards the liar, or that the person would have little time for you. These are probably lies themselves, so might be worthwhile overcoming your reluctance and to check with the person you've been warned against.
14Notice it when the suspect repeats sentences. If the suspect uses almost the exact same words over and over, then it's probably a lie. When a person makes up a lie, he often tries to remember a certain phrase or sentence that sounds convincing. When asked to explain the situation again, the liar will use the very same 'convincing' sentence again.
- Just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs does not mean they are lying. The above behaviors should be compared to a person's base (normal) behavior whenever possible.
- The more you get to know someone, the better you will become at recognizing their thinking style and the better you will become at knowing when they may be straying from the truth. In the ordinary course of events, you will see a consistent pattern of eye movements. If a person breaks their pattern, this may well suggest that they are deviating from the truth, though they may not be lying deliberately. To test the pattern break, ask more questions to try and clarify whether the pattern break was indeed an attempt to tell a lie.
- Some of the behaviors of a liar listed above also coincide with those of an extremely shy person, who might not be lying at all.
- Some of the behaviors may also occur when somebody is very concentrated on speaking (for example, when the topic is sophisticated or the person is stressed).
- Botox or other plastic surgery may also interfere with 'tells' and give false positives.
- Some people may have reputations for lying; keep this in mind, but don't let it mask your opinions all the time. You have to take it on a case-by-case basis.
- Some people are extremely experienced or even professional liars. He or she has told their made up story so many times that they are actually believable, getting all their days, dates and times down perfectly! Sometimes, you may need to simply accept that you can't catch every lie all the time.
- Many of the signs that a person is lying are also signs that they are simply nervous. This can especially be the case if they are uncomfortable with the subject they are talking about.
- If they are being accused of something they, they may be a defensive to convince you otherwise. This may seem like they are lying but they are just shocked to be put at the center of attention unexpectedly.
- Most people tell the truth most of the time, and will cherish their reputation. Liars will 'sail close to the wind' - they'll artificially bolster their reputation so that they seem more credible or desirable than they actually are.
- Train yourself to lie, and well. If you can lie very well, you should be able to tell when others are lying.
- A lier might use objects around them to help put detail into their lies, e.g. there might be a pen on the table and then in the story it might include a pen.
- Be careful of how often you appraise others' truthfulness. If you are always looking for lies, people may avoid you.
- Remember that eye contact is considered rude in some cultures, so this may explain why they are reluctant to look at you in the eye consistently.
- Some people with developmental disabilities like Autism or Asperger's syndrome are very reluctant to make eye contact or do not make eye contact at all. This is a trait of the Autism spectrum and not a sign of dishonesty. Also, some people like to stare at you eye-to-eye.
- Forcing a smile is often just an attempt to be polite; don't take this personally. If someone fakes a smile for you, it can also mean that they want to make a good impression on you because they value you as a person and are showing respect.
- Someone who is deaf, or hard-of-hearing, may need to watch your mouth instead of your eyes, in order to lipread or better understand what you are saying.
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