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Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Secrets All Women Keep

We women are well aware that most of the time we're a profound mystery to men. And for the most part, we like it that way. But the thought has occurred to just about every woman: Would it really be so bad if he knew _________ about me? Wouldn't it help him understand me better? And more importantly, Wouldn't he annoy me less if he knew what I really wanted?
So for the benefit of women everywhere (and for your benefit too, guys—remember, a happy woman makes for a much happier man), we're going to let men in on a little of what really makes us tick, deep down. Read on for 11 near-universal secrets of womankind. Some may shock you, others may be things you've suspected for a long time (but never had the nerve to ask about). But know this: the woman in your life? She's hiding more secrets than these, including a few you'd never imagine. Lucky you—you get to spend a lifetime learning them all.
1. Everything we buy for ourselves—shoes, a skirt, even just stuff from the drugstore—really costs 20 percent more than we tell you it did.
Just because it's a classic sitcom plot doesn't mean it isn't true. "Sometimes I'll buy an outfit and charge half of it on our credit card and pay for the other half in cash so my husband doesn't know what I'm actually spending," admits one 32-year-old, who requested anonymity to protect her sneaky secret. Yeah, we know honesty is the best policy, hiding your spending habits is bad, blah blah blah. But sometimes we just don't want the hassle of arguing over the price of the fancy shampoo. Is that so wrong? We don't think so.
2. We actually think about sex—with you!—a lot.
Sometimes we think about it all day long. It's just that by the end of the day we're too damn tired to do anything about it. Now, if you could only catch us at lunchtime…
3. We're just as nervous about commitment as you are.
True, many girls grow up dreaming of Prince Charming, the white wedding, and happily ever after. But we're human, just like you, and when it comes down to the reality of tying our life to another person's, we get scared, too. "The idea of getting married completely freaked me out at first," says my friend Lisa, 34. "I know this sounds like a guy cliché, but I saw it as giving up my independence and being tied down." The good news is, once we're hitched, we're generally pretty delighted about it. Says Lisa, "Now that I am married, having a life commitment is so comforting and wonderful. I love knowing that we are a team and that we're going to be on the same team forever."
4. We may be modern and independent, but we still want you to be "the man."
We do want you to be sensitive, caring 21st-century males, but even the most ass-kicking, take-no-prisoners woman still wants to feel taken care of by her man somehow. Whether that means you take charge in bed, know how to fix the car and kill spiders, or even just carry the big suitcase when we're on vacation—when you act all manly, even if you're 98 pounds soaking wet, it makes us feel more feminine, more safe.
"I love that my friends and family always comment on how my husband opens the door for me and does all kinds of other chivalrous things—especially when I was pregnant, when he was so protective of me and my belly," says Lorraine, 29, of New Hartford, NY. "At the end of the day, being in his strong arms is definitely a good feeling, no matter how independent I know I am."
5. Our ex-boyfriends were not completely terrible in bed.
You know how we're always telling you things like, "No one does it like you do"? Um, yeah. Well, we may have been stretching the truth just a teensy bit. But we'll never actually tell you that a past lover was a bedroom dynamo—we're smarter than that. Just know that whatever toe-curling orgasms the other guy gave us, sex with you really is a million times better—because it's you, and you're the one we really want.
6. We're scared that we'll turn into our mothers.
We love our mothers, really. We admire them, we're grateful to them, we think they're the most amazing women on the planet. We just don't want to be them. That's why one of the worst insults you can hurl at a woman is, "You're acting just like your mother."
But here's one that's even worse: "You're acting just like my mother." It sends a horrible oedipal shiver down our spines—did he marry me because I'm like his mom? Will he start expecting me to cut the crusts off his PB&J? So please, if you value your sex life, never ever compare your wife to your mother. Out loud, anyway.
7. We want you to be jealous—but just a little bit.
We want you to notice—and care!—when the waiter flirts with us, or when other guys check us out on the street. It makes us feel that we matter to you. But please don't get all Neanderthal and possessive on us. "I'm very loyal, and if my guy can't understand that I would never do anything with anyone else, then that just makes me mad," says Paulina, 22, from Brooklyn. So, to recap: Raising your eyebrows when we introduce you to our cute coworker—good. Punching him out—very, very bad.
8. Yes, we fantasize about hot celebrity guys, but that doesn't mean we want you to be them.
Christian Bale is sexy and all, but can you imagine having to clean that Batcave?
9. We tell our girlfriends more than we admit to you (but less than you fear).
Yes, we tell them about the latest marital spat, complain about our mothers-in-law, and sigh over the hobby that sucks up all your free time. But we don't tell them how big your you-know-what is or that you cried in our arms when your dad died. Some things are just too important and intimate to share. "I definitely don't tell my girlfriends details like what my husband said when he proposed, the feeling I have every time I see him look at our daughter, and the little wonderful things he does for me every day," says Lorraine. "Those are just for me."
10. We really do notice and appreciate all the chores you do.
Why don't we say so often enough? Because we can't get over all the things you don't do. My husband, for example, is incredibly diligent about keeping a 6-by-10-foot carpeted patch of our apartment vacuumed and cat hair–free, and I love that. But it kills me that it never occurs to him to dust the furniture sitting on top of that piece of carpet, or to sweep the hardwood floor adjoining it.
Blame our lack of positive feedback on that stubborn female belief that there is Only One Right Way to do any given household task—our way. It's probably the real reason why men don't shoulder a greater share of housekeeping duties; we complain about how you did it wrong, so you never want to do it again. (Sounds familiar, right?) Let's make a deal: You promise to dust the lampshade (or wipe down the kitchen counter after you wash the dishes, or take out the garbage and then put a new liner in the can) once in a while, and we promise to sing your praises. Agreed?
11. We love you with all our hearts, but we still get wistful about the fact that we'll never feel that falling-in-love sizzle and spark again.
I'll just come right out and say it: Most women are love addicts. And while we appreciate the depth and richness of long-time love, there is simply nothing like the giddy, fluttery, crazy feeling we get (or rather, used to get) with a brand-new guy. We know we'll never feel that high again, and there's a little part of us that will always miss it. (Why do you think we watch so many romantic comedies?) But in the end, what we get instead—you, and a lifetime of true devotion—is more than worth the price.



Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Tips for Avoiding Internet Auction Fraud


Internet Fraud
Listed below are tips to protect yourself and your family from various forms of Internet fraud.
Tips for Avoiding Internet Auction Fraud:
  • Understand as much as possible about how the auction works, what your obligations are as a buyer, and what the seller's obligations are before you bid.
  • Find out what actions the website/company takes if a problem occurs and consider insuring the transaction and shipment.
  • Learn as much as possible about the seller, especially if the only information you have is an e-mail address. If it is a business, check the Better Business Bureau where the seller/business is located.
  • Examine the feedback on the seller.
  • Determine what method of payment the seller is asking from the buyer and where he/she is asking to send payment.
  • If possible, purchase items online using your credit card, because you can often dispute the charges if something goes wrong.
  • Be cautious when dealing with sellers outside the United States. If a problem occurs with the auction transaction, it could be much more difficult to rectify.
  • Ask the seller about when delivery can be expected and whether the merchandise is covered by a warranty or can be exchanged if there is a problem.
  • Make sure there are no unexpected costs, including whether shipping and handling is included in the auction price.
  • There should be no reason to give out your social security number or driver’s license number to the seller.
Tips for Avoiding Non-Delivery of Merchandise:
  • Make sure you are purchasing merchandise from a reputable source.
  • Do your homework on the individual or company to ensure that they are legitimate.
  • Obtain a physical address rather than simply a post office box and a telephone number, and call the seller to see if the telephone number is correct and working.
  • Send an e-mail to the seller to make sure the e-mail address is active, and be wary of those that utilize free e-mail services where a credit card wasn't required to open the account.
  • Consider not purchasing from sellers who won't provide you with this type of information.
  • Check with the Better Business Bureau from the seller’s area.
  • Check out other websites regarding this person/company.
  • Don’t judge a person or company by their website. Flashy websites can be set up quickly.
  • Be cautious when responding to special investment offers, especially through unsolicited e-mail.
  • Be cautious when dealing with individuals/companies from outside your own country.
  • Inquire about returns and warranties.
  • If possible, purchase items online using your credit card, because you can often dispute the charges if something goes wrong.
  • Make sure the transaction is secure when you electronically send your credit card numbers.
  • Consider using an escrow or alternate payment service.
Tips for Avoiding Credit Card Fraud:
  • Don't give out your credit card number online unless the site is a secure and reputable. Sometimes a tiny icon of a padlock appears to symbolize a higher level of security to transmit data. This icon is not a guarantee of a secure site, but provides some assurance.
  • Don't trust a site just because it claims to be secure.
  • Before using the site, check out the security/encryption software it uses.
  • Make sure you are purchasing merchandise from a reputable source.
  • Do your homework on the individual or company to ensure that they are legitimate.
  • Obtain a physical address rather than simply a post office box and a telephone number, and call the seller to see if the telephone number is correct and working.
  • Send an e-mail to the seller to make sure the e-mail address is active, and be wary of those that utilize free e-mail services where a credit card wasn't required to open the account.
  • Consider not purchasing from sellers who won't provide you with this type of information.
  • Check with the Better Business Bureau from the seller’s area.
  • Check out other websites regarding this person/company.
  • Don’t judge a person or company by their website. Flashy websites can be set up quickly.
  • Be cautious when responding to special investment offers, especially through unsolicited e-mail.
  • Be cautious when dealing with individuals/companies from outside your own country.
  • If possible, purchase items online using your credit card, because you can often dispute the charges if something goes wrong.
  • Make sure the transaction is secure when you electronically send your credit card number.
  • Keep a list of all your credit cards and account information along with the card issuer’s contact information. If anything looks suspicious or you lose your credit card(s), contact the card issuer immediately.
Tips for Avoiding Investment Fraud:
  • Don’t judge a person or company by their website. Flashy websites can be set up quickly.
  • Don’t invest in anything you are not absolutely sure about. Do your homework on the investment and the company to ensure that they are legitimate.
  • Check out other websites regarding this person/company.
  • Be cautious when responding to special investment offers, especially through unsolicited e-mail.
  • Be cautious when dealing with individuals/companies from outside your own country.
  • Inquire about all the terms and conditions.
Tips for Avoiding Business Fraud:
  • Purchase merchandise from reputable dealers or establishments.
  • Obtain a physical address rather than simply a post office box and a telephone number, and call the seller to see if the telephone number is correct and working.
  • Send an e-mail to the seller to make sure the e-mail address is active, and be wary of those that utilize free e-mail services where a credit card wasn't required to open the account.
  • Consider not purchasing from sellers who won't provide you with this type of information.
  • Purchase merchandise directly from the individual/company that holds the trademark, copyright, or patent.
Tips for Avoiding the Nigerian Letter or “419” Fraud:
  • Be skeptical of individuals representing themselves as Nigerian or foreign government officials asking for your help in placing large sums of money in overseas bank accounts.
  • Do not believe the promise of large sums of money for your cooperation.
  • Guard your account information carefully.

Monday, January 10, 2011

10 Mitos Tentang Hubungan Asmara

Mungkin Anda pernah menyalahkan aturan atau syarat tertentu, yang menyebabkan gagalnya hubungan percintaan Anda dan pasangan. Berikut ini 10 mitos yang paling umum tetapi berbahaya dari suatu hubungan percintaan.
MITOS 1: CARA BERPIKIR HARUS SELALU COCOK
* Anda tidak pernah melihat segala sesuatu dari kacamata pasangan karena Anda berdua merupakan dua orang yang berbeda baik secara genetika, fisiologi, psikologi maupun latar belakang.
* Anda tidak akan dapat menyelesaikan masalah yang terjadi di antara Anda berdua dengan berusaha menyamai pasangan. Pria dan wanita terikat dengan cara yang berbeda. Mencoba mengaburkan perbedaan pandangan yang mendasar, merupakan sikap yang tidak alami bahkan berbahaya.
* Menyadari bahwa suatu hubungan jauh lebih menyenangkan bila Anda bersama seseorang yang memperkaya kehidupan, bukan hanya sebagai seseorang yang membayangi. Hargai perbedaan di antara Anda berdua.
MITOS 2: PERLU ROMANTISME MENGGEBU
* Tentu saja hubungan Anda dan pasangan perlu melibatkan sejumlah romantisme. Tapi jangan membohongi diri sendiri dan mengharapkan hubungan yang tidak realistis seperti yang terjadi di dalam dongeng-dongeng. Kenyataannya, dalam dunia nyata, menyintai tidak sama dengan jatuh cinta.
* Cinta hanya merupakan tahapan awal dari hubungan percintaan. Sangat tidak mungkin untuk tetap berada pada tahapan tadi. Suatu hubungan yang matang dan dewasa akan mengalami mulai dari jatuh cinta yang menggebu-gebu sampai dengan cinta yang lebih dalam dan lebih aman.
* Jangan salahartikan pendapat yang mengatakan bahwa begitu perasaan jatuh cinta hilang, berarti tidak lagi ada cinta. Jawaban yang tepat adalah untuk tidak memulai suatu hubungan baru sampai perasaan Anda pulih kembali.
MITOS 3: SEMUA MASALAH HARUS DITUNTASKAN
* Jangan terjebak dengan pendapat yang mengatakan bahwa Anda dan pasangan tidak dapat berbahagia bila tidak bisa menyelesaikan perselisihan dengan tuntas. Pada kenyataannya, 90 persen dari masalah yang dihadapi, kerap tidak teratasi.
* Ada hal-hal yang tidak disepakati oleh Ada dan pasangan dan itu akan terus tidak disepakati. Mengapa Anda berdua tidak menuntaskan masalah-masalah ini? Karena untuk melakukannya, baik Anda maupun pasangan, harus mengorbankan prinsip yang dianut.
* Anda dapat dengan mudah setuju dan tidak setuju dan mencapai pendekatan emosional walaupun Anda tidak mencapai pendekatan masalah.
MITOS 4: HARUS PUNYA MINAT SAMA
* Hubungan tidak akan terganggu bila Anda berdua tidak memiliki minat dan kegiatan yang sama.
* Bila Anda (atau sebaliknya) berusaha dan terpaksa menyukai atau mengikuti kegiatan yang dilakukan oleh pasangan tetapi hasilnya Anda malah merasa stres dan konflik, jangan lakukan.
MITOS 5: HUBUNGAN SERASI ADALAH YANG ADEM-AYEM
* Jangan takut untuk berargumentasi hanya karena khawatir hal tersebut merupakan tanda-tanda kelemahan atau retaknya suatu hubungan. Bahkan pasangan yang sehat pun saling berargumentasi.
* Bila pendekatan dilakukan dengan benar, berargumentasi dapat membantu hubungan dengan (a) meredakan tegangan dan (b) merasakan kedamaian. Juga merasa percaya bahwa dengan menyadarinya, Anda dapat menenangkan perasaan tanpa merasa dipermalukan atau ditinggalkan.
* Agar tidak khawatir mengenai berapa banyak Anda berselisih paham atau bagaimana Anda berargumentasi, berikut ini beberapa panduan:
a. jangan memutuskan pembicaraan dan menyerang pasangan selama berargumentasi
b. jangan sengaja memancing konflik karena dapat menstimulasi perselisihan
c. jangan mencari siapa yang benar dan siapa yang salah pada saat berargumentasi
d. jangan menghindari pendekatan emosional di akhir perselisihan.
MITOS 6: MELEPAS SEMUA UNEK-UNEK ADALAH YANG TERBAIK
* Mengeluarkan semua perasaan yang terpendam memang terasa melegakan. Namun bila Anda mengucapkan kata-kata tanpa dipikirkan terlebih dahulu pada saat situasi sedang memanas, Anda berisiko merusak hubungan asmara selamanya. Banyak hubungan yang hancur pada saat salah satu pasangan tidak dapat memaafkan kata-kata yang dikeluarkan oleh pasangannya pada saat mereka bertengkar.
* Sebelum mengucapkan kata-kata yang bakal Anda sesali, gigit lidah Anda dan beri waktu pada diri sendiri untuk mempertimbangkan apa yang Anda rasakan. Kata-kata yang kita ucapkan pada saat sedang marah, sering tidak mewakili apa yang betul-betul kita rasakan dan tidak perlu diucapkan terutama bila kata-kata tersebut berpotensi merusak hubungan asmara.
MITOS 7: HUBUNGAN MESRA TIDAK ADA HUBUNGANNYA DENGAN SEKS
* Jangan batasi pemikiran dengan anggapan seks hanya merupakan hubungan intim atau sentuhan fisk seperti ciuman atau pelukan. Belaian, berpegangan tangan, dan banyak lagi yang berhubungan dengan sentuhan fisik yang memberikan rasa nyaman, dapat dikategorikan sebagai bagian dari kehidupan seks yang terpenuhi.
* Mungkin seks memang bukan segalanya, tetapi seks (dalam perkawinan) memegang peranan penting (90 persen) dari sumber frustrasi di dalam suatu hubungan. Bila kehidupan seks di perkawinan Anda tidak terpenuhi, hal ini akan merupakan masalah besar. Di sisi lain, pasangan yang memiliki kehidupan seks yang memuaskan hanya mengalami 10 persen rasa frustrasi.
MITOS 8: HUBUNGAN MESRA TAK BISA MENUTUPI KEKURANGAN PASANGAN
* Tidak ada seorang pun yang sempurna. Sejauh pasangan tidak kasar, kejam, dan perusak, Anda dapat belajar hidup dengannya.
* Daripada memusatkan perhatian pada kekurangan-kekurangan pasangan, ingatlah kelebihan yang dimilikinya, yang membuat Anda tertarik.
* Hati-hati dalam membedakan antara pasangan yang memiliki perilaku aneh dengan pasangan yang memiliki gangguan yang serius seperti penganiaya dan kasar.
MITOS 9: ADA CARA YANG TEPAT & SALAH DALAM MENCIPTAKAN HUBUNGAN SERASI
* Tidak ada definisi yang tepat untuk menjadi pasangan yang baik ataupun menjadi orang tua yang baik.
* Lakukan apa yang cocok bagi Anda. Bila apa yang Anda atau pasangan lakukan merupakan prinsip yang sesuai bagi Anda berdua, berpeganglah pada prinsip tersebut.
* Jangan kaku terhadap cara yang diperlihatkan oleh pasangan dalam mengungkapkan perasaan cintanya. Bila pasangan mengekspresikan perasaannya dengan cara yang berbeda dengan yang dilakukan kebanyakan orang, tidak berarti cintanya kurang bernilai atau kurang meyakinkan.
MITOS 10: JUJUR ADALAH SEGALANYA
* Jangan terjebak dengan pandangan yang mengatakan, bila dapat mengubah pasangan, maka hubungan akan menjadi lebih baik. Anda berdua bertanggung jawab terhadap kelanggengan hubungan.
* Hilangkan pendapat bahwa jatuh cinta berarti menemukan seseorang yang akan bertanggung jawab terhadap kebahagiaan Anda. Anda perlu bertanggung jawab pula terhadap kebahagiaan Anda sendiri.
* Bila hubungan mengalami kesulitan, orang yang paling penting untuk berubah mungkin Anda sendiri. Begitu menyadari perilaku yang tidak baik, Anda dapat memilih untuk menghilangkannya dari kehidupan Anda.

Sunday, January 9, 2011

The 6 Rules of Commercial Music Success



Over the years I have had many conversations with music artists about commercial music, which usually leads to them disclosing their disdain and hatred of it. Some refer to pop music (pop, as in what’s popular now) as commercial music. Others think of anything that is receiving heavy rotation on radio as commercial music. Whatever their definition, one thing is often overlooked: commercial music is the heart of the music industry which pumps the blood that keeps it alive.
So why then are so many music artists resistant to making commercial music? The answer that I’m often given is because they don’t want to “sell-out” their creative integrity by conforming to some industry version of what’s popular (i.e. what’s selling). It becomes very obvious to me that the problem is not commercial music, but rather the perception and definition of it.
The misconception is that the music industry created this rigid definition of commercial music. That fallacy is often perpetuated by music artists who or either unwilling or incapable of creating commercially viable songs. The truth is, the public dictates what is commercial, and for decades they have gravitated towards, embraced, and purchased records that adhere to a commercial music format.
If commercial music is the rule for success and sales in the music industry, there are inevitably going to be some exceptions to it, but unfortunately, the tendency is for music artists to try and become the exception, instead of observing the rules and why they exist.

Simply put: the rules of commercial music success have not, and will not change. Not in your life time or your children’s lifetime. They exist because it's human nature to reject the unfamiliar; in the music industry, similarity is the cornerstone of acceptance. This is why so many popular songs sound similar and contain familiar elements. It’s a rule that is prevalent in every genre, and on every continent.
There are those artists who do a masterful job of observing their own artistic values while delicately balancing the demands for commercial music by industry professionals.
Artists such as Prince, Sting and Bjork, have pushed the envelope of creativity for years. But artists of their caliber who possess such sublime talent and vision are rare.
For the sake of clarification and argument, I will offer my explanation and industry definition of what commercial music is; based on 25 years of listening to recordings as a music lover, music industry professional, and music critic in what I will call, “The 6 Rules of Commercial Music Success.”

They are songs that have the following:
1.) A strong hook/memorable chorus. If no one knows what your song is called, they can’t request it when they hear it on the radio. More importantly, they can’t buy it at retail…or track it down on the Internet to illegally download a copy of it.
2.) Good melody. Commercial music is characterized by good melodies (i.e. verses, choruses, and sometimes bridges that get stuck in your head and make you want to sing-along). What can the top selling hip-hop acts of the last 10 years (Tupac, Notorious B.I.G., Jay-Z, Eminem, and 50 Cent) attribute their success to? Good melodies (not cool beats) that increase the commercial value of their music...thanks largely in part to the king of modern hip-hop melody, Dr. Dre.
3.) Well-Produced. Coming from an r&b background where producers are a pivotal part of commercial music success, I did not realize until I became a consultant that many rock bands don’t utilize, nor value producers like r&b music acts. Perhaps they should since the record company often assigns producers to enhance the performance of songs (through their musical expertise) and enrich the records (through their experience and proficiency in the recording process), ultimately making them more enjoyable to listen to and, you guessed it…more commercial!
4.) Appealing lyrics. The lyrics don’t have to be profound; people just have to be able to relate to them. If you have a way of saying common things in an uncommon way, your lyrics will have an edge over the songwriter whose song is about the same topic. Write about what’s closest to your heart for credibility and sincerity, and others will be able to relate to your songs – especially if it’s on a subject matter that they know or will experience.
5.) Keep it short. Keep the length of your songs down to a maximum of four minutes. Jazz and World Music are exceptions. A song that is well written makes people want to hear it again, and again, and again. The longer the song is, the less likely that will happen. Don’t believe me? Check the length of your favorite songs.

6.) Well-Performed. Most outstanding vocalists are often surprised by how low this rule is on the list. The fact is that there are more mediocre songs performed by outstanding vocalists, than there are mediocre vocalists performing outstanding songs. A good song that is well-performed gives it an edge, but if the song is lacking, all of the yelling and vocal acrobatics that singers tend to use to compensate for it, will not make it a better song….though it may help the singer to attract better songwriters to work with.
Now that you know the 6 rules of commercial music success, hopefully you will be able to use this information to your advantage and create songs that will increase your chances of success in your professional music endeavors…or you can ignore them and continue to wonder why no one (other than your friends and family – all of which listen to commercial music) like your songs.


Raising Baby Snakes - The Right Way

Raising Baby Snakes

One of the questions we get asked quite often is "How do you successfully raise so many baby snakes". This article will explain how we do it, using methods we've developed at VMS over the last twenty-plus years. Some articles may differ from the methodology presented here, and some keepers may view it as overly simplified. Remember, in any large-scale operation the simplest method will always prove the most effective. Whether you are new to the hobby or experienced, a lot can be learned from that simple statement.
The article here focuses on raising hatchling cornsnakes, but apply equally well to many other colubrid species as well, such as kingsnakes, milksnakes, ratsnakes, etc. Remember, it's the concepts presented here that matter; the details can be varied a bit based on specie.

Obtaining Healthy Hatchlings

For the purposes of this article, we'll simply assume you've obtained healthy hatchlings from a reliable breeder, or better still have produced your own.
There's a huge number of sources for baby snakes out there, but in general we recommend dealing directly with a breeder to obtain them. Use caution when dealing over the internet, as it can be difficult to ascertain whether you are dealing with a legitimate business or simply a small breeder falsely representing themselves as such. Ask questions about length of time in business, ask to see copies of business documents such as tax licenses, and check references around the internet. In short, make every effort to make sure you are dealing with a long-term reputable dealer BEFORE even looking at his stocks. Quite often, those offering the lowest prices are best avoided. This may indicate they are unable to properly house and maintain large numbers of hatchlings and must dump them fast. If nothing else, it can indicate the seller places little value on them, and thus will usually devote little effort to caring for them as well. Be prepared to pay a fair market price for a quality specimen, it's the reward quality breeders deserve for their efforts.

Facility Basics

This subject really should have come first in this article. Always have all required equipment and caging assembled before obtaining or hatching baby snakes. Seems like a simple enough concept, but you'd be surprised at how many inquiries we get on what to buy for a new baby snake somebody has "just picked up at a show a few days ago".

Figure 1: a baby snake rack
At left is a close-up view of one of our baby snake racks (Fig. 1), with most of the boxes removed for easier viewing. While it seems simple, there are a number of features that should be examined before either building your own or buying a commercially made one.
We often get asked which commercial rack systems we prefer, and the answer is none. Thus far, we have found fault with every type we've examined and elected to construct our own. However, new rack systems appear on the market each year and presumably somebody will get it right eventually. Truthfully, we haven't really checked in the last several years.
The racks shown here were built upon 6qt Sterilite brand shoeboxes. These are slightly taller than many boxes, and thus fewer fit per rack, but they seemed ideal for use with somewhat nervous species - which might leap up and over the sides of shallower boxes. Additionally, they are very inexpensive and readily available at many stores. Many other brands or sizes may be used, experiment a bit to see what best suits your needs.

Figure 2: check the shelf spacing
Once the box has been selected (or if you are evaluating a commercially built rack), it's most important to pay close attention to the spacing of the shelves as shown here (Fig. 2). In order to provide security, tight tolerances are required. Too loose and tiny snakes can escape, too tight and sliding boxes in and out is impossible.
A hint if you are building your own: Cut several spacer blocks and test them for a precise fit before assembling the shelves. Use these spacer blocks to hold shelves in place and insure you have a correct and uniform fit between each shelf during construction.

Figure 3: use a rheostat or thermostat
Notice the rheostat we've installed in the space occupied by one box. (Fig. 3) Whether you choose a simple rheostat as shown here, or a fancier digital thermostat is up to you. But some method of controlling the heat used to create a 'hot-spot' is a requirement.
It's not shown here, but at the outside rear of the same compartment is an electrical outlet. The rheostat is wired to control half of this outlet, and the heat cable is simply plugged into it.

Figure 4: a commercially available 'heat rope'
I knew you were going to ask what a heat cable is, so I've illustrated one here. (Fig. 4) This is a prototype of a now commercially available brand often sold as 'heat rope' or similar.
Other types can be used, and for many years we've used commercial pipe heating cables. However, these come with thermostats built in set for freezing temperatures, which must be cut away or spliced around to operate for our needs. Heat ropes such as shown here are probably the safest bet for those not experienced at electrical wiring and safety.

Figure 5: location of the heat tape
In the picture at left (Fig. 5), look carefully at the silver metallic tape along the back of each shelf.
We used our table saw and a dado blade to cut a simple channel perfectly sized to fit the heat cable. Metallic tape (aluminum tape) is placed over the top to prevent the cable from popping out of the channel or getting rubbed by the boxes sliding overhead.
At proper temperatures, the heat cable will warm about a third of the wooden shelf - providing a perfectly sized 'hot-spot' for baby snakes.

Providing the Proper Temperature

Speaking of 'hot-spots' and temperatures, what is right for your baby snakes? Providing proper temperatures is absolutely critical to successfully raising any reptile. We get more questions about this subject than any other, and they can prove difficult to answer properly.
The correct answer depends on several things. Don't put too much faith in the temperature ranges found in some book or on the internet as just a few degrees can make a big difference. For example, I just checked a popular book on Cornsnakes that states a range of 79-85 degrees is ideal. Yet when I checked one of our racks in which the snakes were thermo-regulating perfectly, I got a range of 82-90. Bear in mind that our baby snake room is heated to 76-78 in winter and 82-84 in summer, and so there are no cold spots anywhere in any cage.
Your conditions may be slightly different. And that's the point - there is no simple answer. It's up to you to be diligent and thorough about providing safe temperature ranges. I'm not going to make specific statements about it and the various equipment available, especially since we've probably never used any of the commonly available pet store equipment. Instead I'm going to show you how we've settled on doing it over the last twenty years of commercial production. Take a look at the following section to see just how simply it can be done.

Figure 6: it's too hot, let's go to the front
To eliminate error, why not just let the snakes themselves guide you? After all, they know best.
Take a look at the photo at right (Fig. 6). See how all the little snakes are pressed to the front of the cage? That's because it's uncomfortably warm for them at the rear over the heat cable. It's your clue to turn down the heat cable just a little.

Figure 7: it's too cool in here, let's go to the back
Now wait a few hours and check again. See in the photo at left (Fig. 7) how the snakes have all left the front and are now sitting on the hot-spot at the rear of the cage? That's your clue that temps could be just a teensy bit warmer.
Once you've got it just right for the specie involved, you'll see some are at the front and some are at the rear most of the time. Other times you'll see them mostly all on the heat if the room has cooled overnight, and mostly all back at the front later during the heat of the day. This means optimal temperature ranges have been achieved and the snakes are now successfully thermo-regulating themselves. You may now quit fooling around with the rheostat and get back to work cleaning cages.

The Cage Itself

Speaking of cleaning cages, let's start by examining the box itself. We use commonly available Sterilite boxes. We settled on these after having encountered difficulty obtaining replacements for the more specialized boxes offered by some dealers. It just seemed wisest to work with a type easy to obtain. These boxes offer an interior floor space of 11" x 5" and are 4-1/2" tall, ideal for hatchling cornsnakes, ratsnakes, kingsnakes, milksnakes, ball pythons, sand boas and rosy boas. Outside measurements are slightly more due to the angled sides. Many keepers utilize shorter boxes, but this makes it easy for a panicked snake to jump out, so we've settled on this height as the best balance for our needs. Feel free to select whatever size suits you, it's not critical. What's important is that it be cheap, lightweight, easily replaceable, and easily cleaned.

Figure 8: a baby snake box, showing ventilation holes
Notice the ventilation holes in front and rear of each box in the photo at right (Fig. 8). Don't drill these, doing so will leave sharp edges which will cut little snake noses. Instead, use a soldering iron to melt each hole. Be sure to do this outside, and avoid inhaling the fumes created. Depending on the humidity requirements for your specie, and the relative humidity in your snake room, you may need to make more holes than shown here - but it's a good starting point. You can always add more holes later if needed.
You'll also notice in some of the photos that our racks all have either perforated pegboard backs or simply have open backs. This allows for better airflow throughout the cages. Most of our rooms have ceiling fans to provide additional circulation as well. All of our rooms have exhaust fans set on timers to exhaust stale air from the rooms and draw in fresh air for an hour or so twice per day. Fresh air is a must, if it stinks to you, then it must be unbearable to the snakes.

Water

Here at VMS, we use inexpensive disposable plastic water dishes, as shown here (Fig. 9). They are lightweight, very cheap, and can simply be tossed if soiled. They have a snap-on cover that limits spills from sloshing when the cage is pulled out. They are clear and the contents can be easily viewed without sliding each cage out.

Figure 9: a baby snake box, showing disposable plastic water dish
Frankly, we find them ideal, but with one caveat: They should only be used with very small snakes. Larger specimens may get inside to soak, forcing the contents all the way to the top. If they cannot find the exit hole, or are too thick to turn easily, they may drown. We recommend them only for slender snakes such as corns up to about 18" in length.
As for the water itself, we currently use well water, straight from the tap. Water in urban areas may contain chlorines, chloramines and fluorides. While we used treated municipal water for many years without problems, some keepers insist on using filtered water. Honestly, I think if it's safe for you to drink, it's safe for a snake to drink. But go with your gut on that one, there's certainly no reason not to offer filtered water. Regardless of the water source, change it at least weekly if chlorinated, more frequently if not, and immediately if soiled. Always wash and sterilize (or replace) the dish during these changes.

Security

Nope. I'm not talking about an alarm system, although you may want one of you have a large and valuable collection, we've had one for years now. What I'm referring to here is the security of the snake. A snake which feels insecure will never do well. Don't locate the cage in an area with high traffic, slamming doors, kids bouncing balls off the front, a cat staring down through the screen cover at it, bright lights...well you get the idea. They need peace and quiet.

Figure 10: a baby snake box, showing crumpled newspaper hiding area
This is another area where rack systems excel. Those small plastic boxes slipped into dark little shelves are often enough security for all but the most nervous individuals. In fact, we rarely offer any form of hide in our racks.
When we do need to offer a hide, we usually keep it simple. We simply scrunch up a half sheet of newspaper and place it in the cage as shown at right (Fig 10). Besides being free and disposable, it's been well received by the snakes. They simply love being able to cram themselves into the tight folds it offers. Just be sure to shake them out before discarding a soiled piece of paper, I've had to dig more than one startled little cornsnake back out of the trash can. When placed as shown, it also allows them to continue thermo-regulating while always enjoying the security of their hide. Regardless of the type of hide you choose, those are the two most important aspects. It must be a tight and secure fit for them, and it must allow for thermoregulation by covering both warm and cool locations. Otherwise, many snakes will seek out a hiding spot at the expense of achieving proper body temperature.

Feeding

Now for the big subject, proper feeding. For our purposes here, we're going to assume you've obtained a healthy young snake, already feeding steadily on frozen-thawed mice and that you are maintaining correct environmental conditions as described above. If not, we've prepared an entire web page on dealing with stubborn feeders, and I'm not going to cover all that again here. Click here to read it.

Sizing and Preparing the Meal

For many years, all keepers had available were live or freshly killed mice. While these could have a few problems, such as live adult ones chewing up snakes and either type potentially carrying parasites, problems were otherwise pretty non-existent. In fact, the only problem commonly encountered was a lack of steady supply. This problem continues to this day.
Over the last decade or so, frozen mice have entered the hobby on a commercial scale and quickly achieved 'mainstream' status. They provide the perfect solution to the irregular supply problem, and are a real convenience to all who tire of running to the local store once a week for a mouse. Just pop a dozen in the freezer and problem solved. Be sure to put them BEHIND the frozen pizza, lest your mother in law stumble across them while grubbing for ice cubes...

Figure 11: a freezer full of mice is convenient - but can cause cardiac arrest in unsuspecting relatives
As you can see in this picture from our freezer (Fig. 11), the greatest convenience is the handy supply of a variety of sizes. Anybody with some freezer space can keep every size needed for a vast array of snakes of all ages and sizes. I can also see from the photo that it's time to re-order. Waiting on the UPS truck is a lot easier than digging through our rodent breeding racks for pinkies....
While wonderfully convenient, they are not without their problems. In fact, since their use has become wide-spread the numbers of digestive-related health inquiries we've received has increased dramatically. I can't say there's a definite correlation, but it feels like it. I've written an entire page on the subject of live vs. frozen, and won't go over it all again here. Click here to read it. Regardless of the issues, we use them here almost exclusively for our baby colubrid snakes. This is mostly because customers have grown to require they be feeding on frozen and because it's, well, like I said, convenient.
But remember when using either fresh-killed or frozen-thawed that you are dealing with a complete carcass here. We're all familiar with safety precautions involving thawing chicken breasts on the kitchen counter, imagine the dangers in thawing a complete frozen chicken. Not the kind neatly cleaned and sealed in the vacuum packed plastic wrapper, I mean the kind with all the guts, fresh poop in and on it, and dirty feathers all over it. Lemme guess, after reading that you don't want chicken for dinner? Well, your snake doesn't want a dirty rotting pinkie either, so use the same precautions you would with your own meal. Keep things fresh, feed immediately after thawing, remove uneaten items after thirty minutes, and above all never ever ever feed one that's even slightly cold to the touch.

Figure 12: thaw feeders COMPLETELY before feeding
We recommend simply laying out each food item on clean paper towel, well-spaced as shown at right (Fig. 12), and placing them in front of a fan. At snake-room temperature, with air circulating over them, even larger food items thaw amazingly fast.
Speaking of larger food items, what size is right for your snake? Based on the numbers of inquiries we receive asking what to do about regurgitation, it's apparent that far too many keepers feed prey items that are far too large. Just because somebody sent you an internet photo of a Reticulated Python that ate a Donkey, it doesn't mean you should feed Donkeys to your pet snake. For Colubrid snakes, such as corns, kings, rats, and milks, feed prey items with a body diameter roughly the same size as that of the snake and you'll be OK.
This is where another potential problem often arises, as there seems to be no standards for sizes amongst suppliers. What one calls 'large pinkies', another may call 'fuzzies'. I can't help you with this very much, but the best suppliers offer photos of each size, along with a common item (such as a dime). Go set your little snake o to of a dime and see what you think before ordering. Sorry, it's the best I can do.
How often should you feed? Well, that's a bit tricky. For newly arrived specimens, or those that are very small, once per week is generally about right. Once established and obviously thriving, you can pick up the pace a bit to increase growth rates. Make changes gradually, offering food every six days for a month, then every five days for a month, than maybe even every four days. Make very sure temperatures are optimal, as described above, as even slight changes can have a pronounced effect on digestion. With growth, the size of the prey item should be increased appropriately. It's far better to err on the side of safety and feed smaller items less often than to risk the health of your pet.

Offering the Meal

Okay, so here you are with freshly thawed pinkie mouse in hand. Now what?
Well, if your snake is really well-established, it will probably take the meal directly from your hand. By hand, I actually mean long forceps or tweezers. We use 10-12 inch ones for baby snakes and 16-18 inch for adults. Don't just use your hand, this will not only teach your snake to bite you, but if teeth break off in your skin it can cause real problems for the snake. Notice I didn't mention the problems for you, if you did this, you deserve it.
Simply grasp the prey item by the scruff of the neck in such fashion that you can easily present the nose to the baby snake. Do it quietly, without disturbing the snake. Scared snakes don't eat. Believe me, although seemingly sound asleep, it knows you are there. In fact, if you thawed the food in the same area (on top of the cage cover is good), the snake will likely already be on the prowl looking for it. Scent plays a key role in feeding - yet another reason to keep your hands out of the way and use forceps.
If your snake is younger, or shy, try this method instead:

Figure 13: offering meals in disposable cups prevents contamination
As you can see in the photo at left (Fig. 13), we've buried a 2oz portion cup almost flush with the surface of the bedding and placed the meal inside. This prevents bedding from adhering to the meal and possibly being ingested by the snake. You can use other items as a 'dinner plate', but these little cups are small, cheap, and disposable. You can usually bum a few from any restaurant you are dining at. If the wait-staff doesn't cough up a couple, mention that this means you'll have to save your tip money to buy some, that usually works.
Those with keen eyes will note that this pinkie is frozen, not properly thawed. I was in a hurry and did this just for the photo - don't offer even partially frozen meals to your snakes.
Always place the cup at the cooler end of the cage, preferably adjacent to the hide spot. Placing it directly on the hot spot will cause the meal to decompose at a startling rate of speed, with negative results on the olfactory senses of both keeper and snake.
Generally, best results with feedings are obtained very early in the morning and again in the evenings or just after dark. Since this is when most wildlife is active, this should come as no surprise. It's just common sense. Which brings me to my last point:

Using Common Sense

99% of successful reptile keeping is using common sense, and I just have to mention a few common problems that we encounter on an almost daily basis in our inquiries. While you don't have to think like a reptile, it'll help. All of these could be avoided with a little use of common sense.
First, if you are using that little round stick-on thermometer the pet store sold you, pry it off the cage wall and throw it away. The snake is not sitting ten inches off the ground on the back wall of the cage, so why is your thermometer stuck up there? The readings it's giving you are useless. Spend a few bucks on an infrared temperature 'gun' and take accurate readings down on the floor of the cage, under hide areas and such. That's where the snake lives and that's what matters. Better yet, just go back and review the discussion of thermoregulation above, since the snakes know more than the thermometer does.
Second, pay attention to the room temperature, especially in winter. Most homes are simply too cool, especially in winter, and providing a proper temperature range can be near impossible in such conditions. Be sure to check the temperature ranges often, especially as seasons change. Each and every fall we get letters from worried keepers that 'my snake has suddenly stopped feeding'. This is due to lowered temperatures. Check the temps.
Third, don't put your tiny new hatchling in a huge aquarium. With a hundred times the space available, it's a hundred times harder to make sure temperatures throughout are ideal. I know you think you are giving your new pet the very best, but there's a reason the pros use those little plastic boxes in shelf rack systems - they are far easier to work with.
Fourth, here's another point about using aquariums: That fancy screen cover you've placed on the top is also letting out all the heat. This can be especially noticeable in homes during winter, and it may be necessary to cover up some or all of the screen to prevent heat loss and achieve a safe temperature range throughout the cage. Take a heavy duty plastic food storage bag, cut the edges to open it flat and trim to fit as needed. This will also help maintain a higher humidity within the cage, which may or may not be of benefit, depending on the specie involved.

Thanks to you all!

Well, thanks to all who have taken the time to read this, and I hope some of the suggestions offered here will help. I'm sure there's a lot of things I've forgotten or inadvertently left out. It's one of the problems with doing something for so log that it becomes second nature, you just don't think to mention some things that might not be readily apparent to others. Feel free to shoot us a note if you see some of these things, or have questions, I'll go back and edit as needed.
P/s My wife had brought a baby snake that a friend of our give to her,thats why i make this research because actually i prefer crocodile than snake if we want to raise an exotic pets.